Triggering “Precious” Memories
Triggering “Precious” Memories
And by that I don’t mean memories of “raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens,” but the cruelty of a mother who is jealous of her daughter “stealing” her man.
In the well-acted movie “Precious,” the title character is a 16-year-old girl, pregnant for the second time by her father. The movie focuses on the relationship of Precious with her mother, Mary (played beautifully by Mo’Nique)—a family dynamic in which the mother constantly humiliates her daughter and treats her as worthless.
What triggered my memories of my mother’s behavior towards me was the mother who turned a blind eye toward what she knew was happening to her daughter, and did nothing to stop the abuse. The mother who was so jealous of a young child, so angry that “her man” preferred the child to her, that she treated her daughter with bone-chilling coldness.
You can read more about this in my Huffington Post blog here.
January 26th, 2010 at 6:45 pm
I have not seen this movie, although I am glad that it is spreading awareness about child sexual abuse. I, too, have had the experience of having a mother who was jealous of me and blamed me for my father’s incest with me. She also thought I was taking her man and considered me my father’s “mistress.” She went so far as to call me “bad, dirty and evil” for my father’s abuse of me.
Thanks for speaking about this. I founded and maintain THE BLOG CARNIVAL AGAINST CHILD ABUSE and I am urging you to submit your blog post to the carnival, which travels around the blogosphere monthly. Our January deadline is tomorrow for a Friday edition, but any month we’d appreciate your joining us to raise awareness. Thanks, in advance, for considering it.
July 16th, 2010 at 9:45 pm
Thank you so much for writing, and for sharing your own story. I’m sorry I missed your deadline but I’ve been quite busy with things. Sending you blessings!
Warmly,
Deborah